Ask a Priest or Deacon to Officiate Your Wedding
In order for your wedding to be validly celebrated in the Catholic Church, it must be witnessed by a Roman Catholic bishop, priest or deacon who is in good standing. You should consult with him in advance of selecting your date to determine his availability for the date(s) time(s) you will be trying to schedule at Duke Chapel. If it is Fr. Juan José whom you want to officiate, consult with the DCC Marriage Preparation Coordinator to check Fr. Juan José’s availability. If it is someone else, you need to provide the DCC with the contact info of the officiant.
Schedule the Wedding and Rehearsal
This takes place at least 6 months prior to the wedding and typically one year prior to month in which you hope to be married. The availability of Duke Chapel is not controlled by the DCC.
For information on how to reserve Duke Chapel and the rules that govern the use of Duke Chapel, please consult https://chapel.duke.edu/visit-events/reservation-requests/weddings
Once your date and time have been secured, contact the DCC immediately to inform us of the details. Indicate if you have a priest/deacon who will be officiating, or if you are asking Fr. Juan José to officiate.
Wedding Ceremony within Mass or without Mass
The sacrament of Marriage may take place within Mass (ie: including the celebration of the Eucharist and receiving of Holy Communion) or may take place without Mass. This decision is made between the couple and the priest/deacon who is officiating. If one of you is of a different faith tradition, it is usually recommended that the Marriage take place without Mass. If one of you is not baptized, the wedding is always a ceremony without Mass.
Marriage between a Catholic and a Person of Another Faith
If one of you is a member of another Christian denomination or faith tradition, or is of no faith tradition, there are permissions or dispensations needed from diocesan authorities. While this is in no way an obstacle, it requires some paperwork, and more importantly some conversation regarding how the Catholic party plans to live out the faith and share it with your children.
If the party who is of another faith desires to have a member of their clergy be a part of the ceremony, they are most welcome and can work with the Catholic priest/deacon who is officiating to determine their role in the ceremony, remembering that it is a Catholic ceremony.
Your wedding preparation will require a number of meetings, plus one full-day seminar (Pre-Cana Class). Please consult with the person who will facilitate your marriage preparation to schedule these meetings. If the officiant of your wedding is someone other than the person who is doing your preparation, you will also need to schedule a meeting with that priest/deacon to go over the ceremony.
Documents Needed for Marriage
Given that your marriage will not only be a glorious celebration, but also a ceremony legally recognized by both civil and Church authorities, there is paperwork to be filled out. The person preparing you for marriage will guide you through this process, asking you to obtain certain items and submitting all necessary documents on your behalf. Some of the items they will ask you to obtain include:
- Baptismal certificates. Catholics and baptized Protestants are asked to provide documentation of your baptism. While many Catholics may still have the certificate from the actual day of their baptism, this is not what is needed. Catholics are asked to contact your church of baptism within 6 months of the wedding date and request a new copy of your Baptismal Certificate, which you can then you forward to the DCC Marriage Preparation Coordinator.
- Marriage license. A Marriage License must be obtained within 60 days before the wedding from Durham County since that is where the wedding will take place (regardless of where the couple lives now or will live in the future). This can be done by visiting: Durham County Marriage License Application
- If the officiant is not Fr. Juan José (or one of the priests from Immaculate Conception parish), the officiant will need to submit a Letter of Suitability from his diocese indicating that he is in good standing. Then the DCC will issue him a Letter of Delegation indicating that he has permission to perform a Catholic Wedding in Duke Chapel. The DCC will also work with the priest/deacon whom you have selected to provide the materials needed for the wedding ceremony (Mass materials, etc.)
Planning the Ceremony
The ceremony will require the attention of both of you as you prepare for your wedding. A reminder that no wedding ceremony is perfect, and more importantly, this sacrament is a religious service that should reflect a decorum that is different from other types of celebrations. The DCC requires that you conform with all of the policies and procedures of Duke Chapel as stated in the paperwork that they will give you when you reserve the date. Duke Chapel will also assign a Wedding Director who will work in conjunction with the priest or deacon who will be officiating. To plan the ceremony, we suggest a book entitled “Together for Life” which has all of the prayers and readings from which you can choose.
- Music is an important dimension of a liturgical moment such as a wedding. You will need to coordinate the music through the DCC Music Director, Andrew Witchger. If the wedding will take place within the context of the Mass, you will also need to reserve a Cantor through the Music Director at an additional cost to you.
- You will need to select between 1 and 3 Readers to proclaim two Scripture readings, plus to read the Prayers of the Faithful (General Intercessions). You can have a different person read each selection, or have the same person read all three. When considering who you might ask, please take into consideration that it may be unwise to ask someone to read in public who has never done that before.
- Other specifics of the ceremony you will review with Fr. Juan José or the priest or deacon officiating as well as with the DCC Marriage Preparation Coordinator and the Duke Chapel Wedding Coordinator.
Duke Chapel charges a fee for the use of the Chapel and for the organist. The DCC is not consulted in the determination of that fee, nor does it receive any amount of that fee. There is no fee for a receiving sacrament in the Catholic Church. If you would like to make a donation to the DCC in honor of your wedding day and if you would like to make an offering to the priest/deacon who officiates, that is much appreciated and at your discretion.
For More Information
Contact Liz Riegel, Marriage Preparation Coordinator, at email@example.com